Marriage 2017-05-18T19:07:33+00:00

Marriage and Weddings


We are delighted that you are considering Holy Family Parish for your wedding. Your wedding ceremony is yours, and you will have much to say about what goes into it, but it is also an official celebration of the Roman Catholic Church. You are the ministers of the Sacrament of Marriage in which you promise each other lasting love and fidelity. From this date forward, you continue to minister this sacrament to each other. The priest or deacon on behalf of the whole Church witnesses and blesses your marital covenant. The Church is also present at your ceremony through your family and friends you have invited.

The preparation process follows the guidelines set forth in The Pastoral Guidelines for Marriage Preparation by the Wisconsin Catholic Bishops Conference and those set forth in the canons governing marriage that are contained in the Canon Law of the Roman Catholic Church.

Your wedding ceremony is not only special and sacred to the two of you, but it is also special and sacred to Holy Family Parish. It is to this end that we, Holy Family Parish, will work together with you in accomplishing this goal.

—Fr. Dennis Dirkx, Pastor

Setting Your Wedding Date

Prior to selecting a hall for your reception, please check with the parish secretary regarding the availability of the date you are considering.  The church is reserved for two hours for each wedding, with one half hour before for set-up and one half hour afterwards for pictures, etc. Weddings are not scheduled during the liturgical seasons of Advent and Lent or on Sundays. Preparation for a wedding at Holy Family requires the time span of six months to one year. Either the bride or the groom must be a registered and active member of Holy Family for at least six months before beginning marriage preparation. To make an initial contact, please call the parish office at 414-332-9220.

Preparation Process

The pre-nuptial process begins with a questionnaire and a detailed explanation of the process. The couple must have copies of their baptismal certificates as well as certificates of confirmation. The baptismal certificate must have been issued within the last six months. A mentor couple (“FOCCUS” couple) from the parish will schedule two to three meetings with the engaged couple, who will then participate in the Engaged Enrichment Day through the Milwaukee Archdiocese. Finally, the engaged couple participates in a spirituality of marriage session with either the pastor or pastoral associate.

Closer to the wedding date, there is a liturgy planning session in scheduled with Larry Theiss, Director of Liturgy and Music. The wedding rehearsal is then scheduled for the evening before the wedding. The marriage license must be brought to the wedding rehearsal.

Frequently Asked Questions

What if I or my future spouse has been married before?
If this is the case, the couple should contact the pastor two years prior to the intended wedding date.

Is there a wedding fee?
Please contact the parish office for details.

Do I or my fiancé need to be a member of Holy Family Parish?
Each couple belongs to a broader community of family, friends and church. Because of this, parish membership is required in order for your wedding liturgy to take place at Holy Family. If neither party is a parish member, a letter of permission from the pastor of your current parish must be obtained.

What if we wish to have a priest or deacon from a different church celebrate the wedding?
Please contact the parish office for individual circumstances.

What if my fiancé is not Catholic?
This will not inhibit your marriage in any way. Particular circumstances should be discussed with the pastor. Adults interested in becoming Catholic, please contact Donna Shriner.

What if I haven’t been confirmed?
Catholics are encouraged to be confirmed before they are married, although the lack of the sacrament would not necessarily impede the wedding. Adults interested in being confirmed should contact Donna Shriner.

Do wee need to provide a stand for the unity candle?
Lighting a unity candle is an optional ritual. There are stands to choose from; the candle should be provided by the couple.